Lads,

Happy Monday morning. It’s a good day to have a great day.

Can we just take a moment to appreciate the Olympics?

So nice having multiple countries to cheer against in multiple events at all hours of the day. #GoUSA🇺🇸

Now let’s get into it.

-C

When you read this, your mind probably first goes to the BIG stuff.
War. Skydiving. Burning buildings. That sorta thing.

But as husbands and fathers, courage tends to look smaller in the day-to-day, a little quieter, and hits closer to home.

It can look like:

These may seem like little moments, but they can carry real fear.

And here’s the thing: nobody actually knows what they’re doing. We are all trying to figure it out as we go.

So courage isn’t the absence of fear. It’s doing the thing despite it.

We can’t just “attack life” when we feel “ready” or “confident.” Confidence comes from competence, and competence comes from repeatedly doing something and getting 1% better each day.

So even if we don’t “feel it,” we saddle up because it’s our responsibility.

And when we do, we don’t just prove something to ourselves, but we also show our wives and our kids what it looks like to move forward in the face of fear.

That’s leadership.

If someone else is your motivation, your results will be inconsistent.

If your wife is the reason you’re behaving better, that only lasts until you’re annoyed. If your boss is the reason you’re working harder, that only lasts until you feel overlooked.

External pressure can modify behavior. It can’t transform the heart.

Only true and lasting change comes from Jesus.

Because of what He did on the cross, we’re invited into new life. He doesn’t just tweak our habits, He gives us a new heart. And when the heart changes, the motivation changes.

We move from obeying to impress others to obeying to please Him.

Our job is obedience and faithfulness.

God handles the heart.

Shoutout to my pastor, Darren Whitehead, who recently preached on Luke 10:38–42 (TL;DR: Jesus visits sisters Martha & Mary; Martha gets distracted by the preparation; Mary rests at His feet listening to Him teach) and pointed out that distraction is the enemy of rest with Jesus.

Given that, and understanding that biblical rest is difficult for most men, here are three questions to ask yourself this week:

When we’re distracted (either trying to do things FOR God instead of WITH God or just flat out ignoring God), we start to worry. We blame others. We assume God doesn’t care. We even tell God what the solution should be.

Distraction can come in many forms, but we must recognize it when it shows up.

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